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大卒で年収500万より、高卒で年収700万の男性が苦戦する

「そうなんですけど、結婚相談所ってマッチングアプリと違って女性のほうが多いので、女性というだけで有利なわけじゃないんですよ。今までもこういう『NG要素がない男性』に会えたと思うんですけど、どこかで『会ってやってもいいかな』感を出していませんでしたか？ 向こうはもっと若い女性とも会っていると想定して会って、人としておもてなしできてました？」
「失礼なことはしていないと思うけど、おもてなしはどうかなぁ」

特別に高収入というわけでも、高学歴とかイケメンというわけじゃない普通っぽい男性が人気者になってしまうのは、婚活は“何かが欠けた”というだけで人気がガクッと落ちるためです。例えば、大卒で年収500万円の男性より、高卒で年収700万円の男性の方が苦戦します。

A man with a high school diploma and an income of 7 million a year struggles more than a college graduate with an income of 5 million a year.

'Yes, but unlike matching apps, marriage agencies have more women than men, so just being a woman doesn't give you an advantage. I think you could have met these 'men with no NG factors' in the past, but didn't you give off a sense of 'I wouldn't mind meeting him' at some point? Did you meet them on the assumption that they were also meeting younger women, and were you able to treat them as human beings?"
I don't think I was rude, but I don't know about hospitality.

The reason why ordinary-looking men who do not have a particularly high income, high education, or good looks become popular is because their popularity drops dramatically when they "lack something" in the marriage activity. For example, a man with a high school diploma and an annual income of 7 million yen will have a harder time than a man with a college degree and an annual income of 5 million yen.

3人目は“会ってあげてる感”がする女性でした。共通の趣味があまりない中、頑張って会話を広げようとしたものの、質問に回答するだけであまり笑ってもくれません。4人目とは2回デートをしましたが、お見合いと全く同じ服で、自分と会うのにおしゃれをする気がないように感じてしまいました。

5人目は悪い人ではなかったのですが、その頃にはのちに結婚する女性と3回目のデートまで進み次のデートで告白しようと思っていたため、お断りしたそうです。結婚することになった女性が一番笑顔で、唯一別れ際に「とっても楽しかったです」と言ってくれたとか。結婚相談所に在籍していた期間は、4カ月程度だそうです。

The third was a woman who made me feel like I was "meeting her." We didn't have many interests in common, but I tried my best to expand the conversation. The fourth person I went on two dates with, but she wore the exact same clothes as on the blind date, and I felt she had no interest in dressing up for a meeting with me.

The fifth person was not a bad person, but by that time he had gone on to the third date with the woman he would later marry and was planning to confess his feelings on the next date, so he turned her down. The woman he was to marry had the biggest smile on her face and was the only one who said "I had a great time" when they parted. He had been with the marriage counselor for about four months.